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How mindfulness can help busy parents cope with information overload

By Michael Dulaney for Mindfully



Being a modern parent has plenty of demands and time constraints that can cause stress and tension build up.

It may be sleep deprivation from children waking up in the middle of the night, or fatigue from spending hours driving between weekend sport.

Meanwhile, there are lunchboxes to be packed, homework to be done, dishes to be washed.

In the face of all this, some parents are turning to mindfulness and meditation to reduce stress, get a better night's sleep and be a better listener for their children.

They say mindfulness has helped them encourage a happier and calmer home.

Mindfulness at home

"I don't want to make it sound like I'm the Dalai Lama," jokes radio host and comedian Jo Stanley as she talks about her mindfulness routine.

Between busy media engagements and taking care of her kids, she is never going to have the dedication of a Buddhist monk.

But in an everyday context she uses mindfulness to bring a sense of calm to her domestic life and to better connect with her daughter, Willow.

This is often something as simple as making sure her full attention is turned to Willow when they spend time together after school.

But she says there are plenty of opportunities for mindfulness throughout the daily routine.

"[For example] I hate cooking dinner," Ms Stanley says.

"But then I'm like, 'OK, lets actually mindfully engage with the practice of it' and I listen to the sound of the knife on the chopping board as I'm cutting onions.

"I think there are really beautiful moments of mindfulness in your day to day activities that can really slow down and change the perspective."

Setting an example

Parenting author and educator Maggie Dent believes one of the benefits of practising mindfulness in this way is that it becomes a form of "role-modelling" for children.

Ms Dent says something as simple as pausing and taking three deep breaths as a calming exercise will ease the stress of the daily routine.

Another suggestion is to use mindfulness to help to quiet the frenetic thoughts from a busy day and aim for a good night's sleep.

She says doing small mindfulness activities throughout the day will encourage children to mimic this behaviour and make them happier and calmer.

"We are incredibly influential," she says.

"When we prioritise taking care of us, we are showing our children that we matter."

This is something Ms Stanley has experienced first hand, with Willow occasionally offering her own mindfulness suggestions.

"She once told me off for swearing, and then she said 'Mummy, your monkey mind has taken control,'" she says.

"Then she took me through the breathing exercise that they do at school to calm their monkey mind and take them from one side of the rainbow over to the good side of the rainbow."

A calmer and happier home

Ms Dent says learning how to be more grounded has become especially useful as the pace of modern life speeds up.

The key for parents of young children, Ms Dent says, is to stop trying to do too much and to incorporate "small pockets" of mindfulness throughout family life.

"There's almost too much information, there's too much stimuli, too much pressure, and then all of those things together make us become ungrounded," she says.

"So mindfulness brings us back into this moment, into our body and into what is really happening."

"A house that is more mindful will be a more loving and fun place - and isn't that what we all want?"

For Jo Stanley, her practice emerged as a response to the stress of Willow being in intensive care as a newborn.

She says the mindfulness techniques she used to stay calm during that difficult period have since transferred to the home and her relationship with her daughter.

"It is just a calmer space, we have a language that is calm and gentle," she says.

"The stillness is really beautiful between us.

"It just informs everything else you do. And it probably makes mummy a nicer person."

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